The PrEP Basics #ComePrEPd
Sex is a procedure unto itself. Try to hold them together firmly, so they don't change positions relative to each other, as the point of this step is to start stretching your anus enough to take a penis or penis-sized toy. People have a lot of different feelings about anal sex. Anal sex is when a penis or other object is inserted into a partner's anus Like any other sexual behavior, some people find it very pleasurable and others don't.
One of the safer liquids to put up your butt is called normal saline.†This is a water mixture that has the right amount of a sodium electrolyte to match what is in your body. HIV can enter your body via unprotected anal, oral or vaginal sex and through sharing used needles.
The warmth of the water and a relaxed state will cause your sphincter to loosen. Start by stretching the anus with a small butt plug before inserting anything larger. A lot of what goes on in your mind and what you're feeling would mirror how tight or relaxed your sphincter would be. So just let go and let loose-literally and figuratively.
Using the lube is as simple as applying it directly onto your partner or toy before you start to play, there is no need to be sparing here. And anal sex does require communication, will involve condoms (most of the time) and it can be a bit messier. If you don't want to be bothered by shit or bits of shit during anal sex, you can give yourself an enema, which means flushing out your rectum with water.
Your butthole would need a whole lot loving and relaxation after sex, so be sure to keep it gentle and use products that don't have too much harsh ingredients in them. So, I don't have exact figures for hetero or homosexual couples, but there is data suggesting that a good percentage of gay men would rather give and receive blowjobs than have anal sex.
So I'm not asking any questions that can be answered with "more lube, more patience." There's the long-term prep you do over the course of months - fingering, gradually working your way up - and the short-term prep over the course of an hour - massages, rimming, relaxing more.
Understandably, the idea of sex prep†can be more for personal cleanliness than health practices for certain people. The data tells us that the most common preparation method is a water-based enema, which 25% of gay male respondents who use a cleanser prefer.
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To get a sense of what anal play with a partner will actually feel like—and what you'll most enjoy—experiment on your own during masturbation with a butt plug, vibrator, dildo, or simply your fingers,†he suggests. For further relaxation benefits, incorporate scents that are proven to reduce stress, like lavender, into your pre-anal shower.
After some really painful-and thus totally unenjoyable-early experiences as a bottom, I now know that the most important things about enjoying receptive†anal sex is for there to be plenty of lube involved, and MOST importantly, that the top go VERY slowly in going in. I mean really, really slow.